Wise words for Moms - Language to use with your children

My dear friend, Marissa, gave me a darling pamphlet titled “Wise Words for Moms.” Basically a 4-page chart, it provides questions, bible verses, and language to help address common problems that come up with kiddos. I hung it on the wall outside my office door where I can easily see it in passing. Recently, I have been stopping to read it more and more.

Toddlers are challenging, but they are KIDS. We are the adults. It’s up to us to teach and inform when they misbehave, but do we always know how to communicate? For me, it’s often a hard “no.” And more often that I care to admit, I’m snappy and impatient.

I find that this little treasure of a guide is helping me discover new language and get more creative while helping my toddler learn and understand more about life. My confidence is growing to speak words of truth, and it is helping me remember to do it with kindness.

I am going to list off some of my favorite suggestions from “Wise Words,” but I also recommend you grab one of these handy dandy tools by Ginger Hubbard for yourself.

Click here for the link

These are listed as

BEHAVIOR

WHAT TO ASK

(The chart also lists great bible verses that go along with these! So helpful!)

1. Aggravating, stirring up strife, picking on others

Are you proposing your heart to promote peace or are you stirring up trouble?
How can you show love and pursue peace in this situation?

2. Blame shifting/making excuses

Could it be you are trying to cover up your own sin?
Without blaming someone else or making excuses, I want you to examine your own heart and tell me what you did.
What could you have done differently?

3. Complaining

Is your attitude showing thankfulness and contentment?
Rather than complaining, what can you be thankful for in this situation?

4. Defiant attitude/defiant look

Are you obeying or disobeying with your attitude?
Are you truly obeying when you obey with an unhappy heart?

5. Destructive with toys or property

Do you think you should be allowed to have this if you are doing to destroy it?
Are you being considerate of the person who purchased this for you?
Is this an act of goodness or evil?

6. Quarreling/arguing

What can do you/say in order to keep peace with your brother/sister right now?

7. Selfishness/“me first”

Are you putting others before yourself or are you being selfish?
What would be a kind and generous thing to do right now?

8. Teasing, tearing others down

Do those words show love and edify your brother/sister or do they tear them down?
What can you say to edify (build up) your brother/sister?

9. Whining

Are you communicating with a self-controlled voice?
How does God want you to communicate?

10. Worry

Are you forgetting who made everything?
Who is all powerful? What can God do about this situation?

Now I would love to hear from you!!

What phrase do you think will be most helpful for your family?

Pass this blog along to a Mama who might be blessed by these words!!

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